“Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires”. James 1:20. NLT.

3. Realise that it’s about restoring your connection to the outside world, the real world. In her book, “The Magic of Forgiveness: Emotional Freedom and Transformation at Midlife, A Book for Women,” Tian Dayton, PhD, writes that, “Forgiveness, on all levels, whether you’re forgiving the person who nudged ahead of you in the grocery line or your mother for ignoring you as a child, is relational in nature; it is about either restoring a relationship connection in the real world or restoring the connection that lives inside the self. Relationships are core to the world in which we all operate.” Dayton’s studies, including the observations of her own relationships, point to a realisation that forgiveness is akin to isolation.

By allowing yourself to forgive offenses, you are allowing yourself to move on and be free from the binding chains of hatred and self-loathing—that’s right…don’t forget that carrying a heavy burden like the need to forgive eventually wears you down just like any other emotional and mental burden.

4. Think of it as a completely free stress-relief drug. Simply thinking about forgiveness when a stressful, pained memory comes up is enough to reduce the stress response in incredible numbers. Forgiveness (or just the thought of forgiveness) has the potential to offer the following life benefits:

• Decrease in anger and negative thoughts

• Decrease in anxiety

• Decrease in depression and grief

• Decrease in vulnerability to substance abuse

Imagine what your life would be like without an exorbitant amount of anger, negativity, anxiety, depression and grief? You would be a whole new person. This study not only implies the ability to change your life but helps you to understand that thinking peaceful thoughts—so, that vision of wringing your co-worker’s neck tomorrow should be the first thing to go—helps to change your overall outlook on life, your demeanour and your well being.

Every day, we are trying to become better, stronger and faster than everyone else, just to ensure that we survive, whatever the struggle may be—a new job, a slouching economy, a family battle, a new business idea or just the daily struggle to get out of bed and get the family ready for the day. Too often, as it may be, we end up butting heads with someone we love, someone we like or someone we just weren’t sure about—and then there’s no getting back to where we started from. They offended you and you offended them. There’s no getting around it.

But there is a way of dealing with it. And recognising these amazing benefits—mental, physical and emotional—of offering forgiveness to those around you, is the only way to ensure that you stay on top of your game and ahead of the pack in everything that you do.

“For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you”. (Mattew 6:14).

Forgiveness. It’s the most precious gift we can give as human beings and also the most difficult to give. As often as we hold grudges and keep from offering this amazing gift, we often have no idea of the emotionally, mental and physical benefits we are keeping from ourselves. In reality, offering forgiveness is as beneficial to the giver as it is to the receiver. And don’t forget that true forgiveness—remember, you can say you’re sorry without really meaning it and the same is true of offering forgiveness!—will help your relationships blossom, grow and endure, whether these relationships exist with your significant other or spouse, family, friends or co-workers.

Still don’t believe that forgiveness is the key to your happiness in life at home and at work? Take a look at some hard evidence that true forgiveness makes everything better:

1. Learning the difference between personal offense and offenses unrelated to you. Many people who have a difficult time forgiving offenses, no matter how great or how small, is that they don’t seem to understand that most offensive remarks or painful events have nothing to do with them at all. You should be paying attention now especially if you find that you get angry or upset when someone other yourself suffers an offense and you are unwilling to forgive the offender. In his book, “Forgive for Good,” author Frederic Luskin relates a study he performed with a woman named Marilyn, whose parents were uncaring, unkind and abusive.

“As a child, Marilyn legitimately took her mother’s lack of care personally. Unfortunately, she continues to do so as an adult.” It’s important to understand that while a parent is responsible to care for a child, you should learn to forgive those in your life (or others’ lives) who commit the same offense to you or others.

Luskin goes on to say that it is important to understand the difference between personal offense and unrelated offense, as well as to forgive and forget. “The challenge is to locate the impersonal part of the hurt the rejections, mistreatments and insults happen to us…we cannot feel the impact of each of these tragedies personally. We have to care more about some than others.

The fact that we ignore, or care less about, some tragedies reflect our understanding that we cannot possibly deal with all the suffering in the world. We know that impersonal hurt is everywhere.” Luskin makes a point that everyone should strive to understand—we cannot take on the burden of all the pain the world and we should not try to carry the burden of unforgiveness with us for every little offense, whether it is directed at us or not. This not only allows us to walk burden free, but also frees up the path of destruction for a path of enlightenment and freedom.

2. Learning to feel like we are “in it together.” In Luskin’s study with Marilyn, he points out the immediate challenge of learning to forgive—we all feel so alone. Luskin writes, “The challenge is to locate the impersonal part of the hurt when the rejections, mistreatments and insults happen to us.

Instead of felling alone in our suffering, we might remember how [it] happen[s] to many other people as well, which means that our mistreatment was not only personal.” When you learn to recognise that others, even the offender in your life, have most likely experienced the same offenses and pains that you have experienced, it will be easier for you to forgive. The benefit here lies in the fact that you will learn to appreciate the experiences of others and perhaps not be so hasty in your anger in the future.

To be continued ……

” Work brings profit, but mere talk leads poverty”. Proverbs 23:14.

At certain time in life, everyone thinks about what is the best job to do. Many independent studies, websites and books tell us about the best job, according to a wide range of characteristics- from the economic conditions at present and the outlook of growth, to the physical and mental stress involved and the working environment of these jobs. However, the truth is that the best job depends upon each individual and his or her personality.

The personality of any one person in the world is shaped by a myriad of phenomenon and factors. The time and place of birth, the upbringing of the person and what is taught by the parents are vital to molding a personality.

Similarly, the schools attended and any bad or good incidents that happen during their lifetime also determine the personalities of people. Because of this, the personality of a person is distinct from any other person in the world. The best job for a person is the one that, in the long run, gives him or her most happiness. For each person this happiness can have different definition, and a job that satisfies one person may not necessarily satisfy others. This is why the best job is different for each person and is dependant on the likes and dislikes of an individual.

To find out what exactly the best job is for you, firstly, you need to ask yourself, what do you do that brings most joy to you? It can be a hobby like singing, playing a sport or painting, or it can be even be simple things, such as talking to people. If you are in job that you like doing, then that is the biggest contributor to making it the best job. Next, you need to see the viability of this job, if it can give enough money and will you be able to reach a better stage in life with this job.

Lastly, have a strong belief that nothing is impossible and step out and do what you love to do by faith guided with a written goal.

There are a lot of other things to be considered when you are looking for the best job. There is no exact best job; a job is made the best by you.

The greater teacher nodded silently for him to begin. So he played, beads of sweat soon appearing on his forehead, and when he finished, he was certain he’d given his finest performance. But the great maestro only shook his head sadly and said, “You lack the fire.”

The young musician was devastated. Nevertheless, he returned home and announced his intention to abandon the violin. Instead, he entered the world of business and turned out to have such a talent for it that in a few short years he found himself richer than he’d ever imagined possible.

Almost a decade later he found himself walking down another street in another city when he happened to spot the great teacher again. He rushed over to him. “I’m so sorry to bother you,” he said, “and I’m sure you don’t remember me, but I stopped you on the street years ago to play my violin for you, and I just want to thank you. Because of your advice, I abandoned my greatest love, the violin, painful as it was, and became a businessman and today enjoy great success, which I owe all to you. But one thing you must tell me: how did you know I didn’t have what it takes? How did you know all those years ago I lacked the fire?”

The great teacher shook his head sadly and said only, “You don’t understand. I tell everyone who plays for me they lack the fire. If you had the fire, you wouldn’t have listened.”

Without passion man is a mere latent force and possibility, like the flint which awaits the shock of the iron before it can give forth its spark.”

Henri-Frédéric Amiel

Passion is most evident when the mind, body and spirit work together to create, develop and articulate or make manifest our feelings, ideas and most sacred values.

Passion enables us to overcome obstacles (both real and imagined) and to see the world as a place of infinite potential. The passionate spirit looks at every occurrence and discovers the golden kernels of what can be, what should be and what will be.

Passion is a gift of the spirit combined with the totality of all the experiences we’ve lived through. It endows each of us with the power to live and communicate with unbridled enthusiasm.

• Passion gives motion to mission.
• Passion shows the pain you are willing to enjoy for your purpose.
• Passion helps to know what is worth dieing for.
• Passion shows what you are willing to walk away from.
• Passion is that fire that brings attraction to life.

Passion was unveiled when :

• Jeremiah- Word like fire in the soul. Jer 20:9

• David- Ran towards Goliath. I Sam 17:48

• Jesus – Do the work of him that sent me day and night. John 9:4

• Paul – Ready to be poured out like a drink. 2 Tim 4:6

• Timothy- Give yourself wholly. 1 Tim 4:15

Passion Resulted to:

• Passion shapes our existence

• Distinguishes from peers

• Fuels the fires of inspiration

• Makes the heart and mind open to changes all around us.

• Sparks that illuminate  our purpose and mission for being here.

• The power of passion forces us to see others as who they are, who they are becoming and often, who they can never be.

In all you do, never lack the fire because it is what brings attraction and meaning to purpose.

“A cheerful heart is a good medicine but a crushed spirit dries up the bones”. (Proverbs 17:22).

By laughing,  people are broadcasting health at a higher frequency. They don’t have room for dark or negative thoughts when laughing and thus are encouraging creative thoughts aimed at the health of their bodies.

What is it we’re told is one of the major causes of illness these days? Stress. And stress originates out of negative thinking. One small negative thought cast out to be reflected back to you can cause serious ramifications.

At the same time, one small positive thought can change that. One thought, then another. Affirmative, constructive thought, focusing always on what you want and rather than what you don’t want.

That applies to your health as much as it does to any other aspect of your life. If you’ve had chronic health problems you may well ask yourself, “What other problem is there? What am I doing that I’ve been unaware of to reinforce this situation?” Work to uncover what the basis for the problem is. Many times, once you discover it, you understand right away where the beginning point of the illness is and can then turn your thoughts to correcting the matter.

Once you discover the core you can work on the illness itself. If this has been a chronic situation, drawn out over many years, it is understandable that it has been held in the body by continual thought and observation of the illness. The worse it gets, the more you focus on it, and through the law of attraction, attract more of the same.

It’s time to redirect your thoughts. Start practising your faith in God’s positive thoughts. If the illness involves pain, use your medication to help eliminate that pain and allow you to focus more clearly. You can then bring your thoughts to your own perfect health. To how you feel when you’re in perfect health, the things you do and enjoy. Believe that perfect health you envision.

Anyone can do this and use it to work harmoniously with the medical attention being received. Opening oneself to the wonder and abundance of the universe by expecting all the good things it offers and turning away from the negative thoughts that cut you off will result in a drop of those little aches and pains that plague you and you will cease believing every day is painful to get through.

Cultivate confident, upbeat thinking and no matter what may have transpired in the past, you will change it. Set goals, develop a plan and resolve to accomplish something each day – whether large or small.

Eliminate stress from your life. Change your thinking about the everyday things that bother you. Recognise them for what they are and set them aside. Don’t continually run a tape over and over in your mind about office disputes, traffic mishaps or the bad chilli you had for lunch. Set it aside and understand with joy, humour and conviction coupled with any medical assistance you may need to help you through—you really can heal yourself.

There are many instances of people actually using laughter to help in their recovery. Watching funny movies, listening to CDs, enjoying the happy memories with friends and just laughing and laughing. Laughter sheds negativity and with it, a person will release disease.

“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well”. (3 John 1:2).

Some people think good health is  something we’re all simply born with. A propensity toward good health or bad health. We’re born with the inclination of fat or thin. What we are, is what we are, and what we have is what we have, end of story.

No, not the end of the story, in fact, it’s just the beginning. The magnetic abilities of our thoughts do not stop with ‘things’. We can all focus our thoughts on optimal health no matter what is going on outside.

Dr. John Demartini is a Human Behavorial Specialist, educator and author who’s dedicated his life to the understanding of universal laws. He got his Bachelors of Science degree from the University of Houston, then studied Chiropractic at the Texas Chiropractic College graduating magna Cum Laude and went on finally to found the Demartini Institute in Houston which is dedicated to exploring and expanding human awareness and potential. Dr. Demartini has known about the law of attraction and the way the universe reflects back on you what you think and expect. He’s broken free of wearing braces as a child, overcome dyslexia, and become a great proponent of opening the heart and mind to a new paradigm of life that he is today.

Dr. Demartini advises: “If a person is sick and has an alternative to explore what is in their mind creating it, versus using medicines, if it’s an acute situation that could really bring death to them, then obviously the medicine is the wise thing to do, while they explore what the mind is about. So you don’t want to negate medicine. Every form of healing has its place.”

So, plainly, any thinking person is going to wisely choose to combine the benefits of what his or her doctor recommends and the power of what your willpower can truly do.

Think about it. Have you ever experienced the ’placebo effect’? Know anyone who was terribly ill, or just had a problem, then took a pill, like a sugar pill, or did something that should have had no true effect on the body, yet that person suddenly simply just got better?

The placebo effect is one area where the power of the mind is centre stage. Why would a person get better because someone told them to take a certain pill and it would help them, cure them, but was it only really a sugar pill? Quite simply, when a person truly believes the pill he or she is given is a cure, then what is expected will be received and thus, a cure. It isn’t the pill that cures them, it is their belief that they will be cured. The thoughts that they send out into the universe expecting a cure. Immediately, the universe responds by manifesting just that in their lives. In that instance, all the clarifying, and even some of the focus, was already done for the person.

The Doctor gave him a pill and told him it would do the job. The patient had faith in the Doctor and wanted to believe that pill would cure him in any case. The thoughts he sent out into the universe were clear, focused, and expectant. What that patient got back was exactly as he expected. A cure for his problem.

For most of us, it’s difficult to not listen to society’s messages about diseases and aging. Negative messages are what drive the commercial health care system and those negative messages are exactly what people do not need to tune into. We would be well advised to mute the TV when the ads for the ‘pill of the week’ come on and tell you that you probably need it and should see your doctor to discuss it soon. If you don’t, what terrible thing may ensue?

Focusing on illness, the possibility of it, the little ache or pain that might be indicative of something major are all thoughts that will draw more of the same to you.

That’s not to say you should not have a check-up or see a physician when there is the need. As Dr. Demartini pointed out earlier, every form of healing has its place and it’s wise to utilize the help we have at hand while exploring what the mind can really do. Just because the law of attraction exists doesn’t mean every individual has learned how to properly use and channel its power.

So begin now, think about optimum health. And while thinking about optimum health, think about what Dr. John Hagelin, Quantum Physicist, author of many scientific papers and Director of the Institute of Science at Maharisi University of Management said: “Our body really is the product of our thoughts. We’re beginning to understand in medical science the degree to which the nature of thoughts and emotions actually determines the physical substance and structure and function of our bodies.”

That takes a bit of considering and some getting used to. And it comes from a Quantum Physicist. What you think, the attitude you have toward your life, is creating the very body you reside in. To focus your thoughts on perfect health then is to begin creating what you want your body to be. We can all do it and we can do it anytime and anywhere.

Take a few minutes from your lunch break to visualise yourself in perfect health, enjoying doing what you love. Last thing when you go to sleep, believe you are strong and healthy. Don’t participate in lengthy discussions with co-workers about their constant and chronic illnesses. Perhaps add a positive comment, then change the subject and give some thought to seeing those people in the best of health.

When you think about disease, give it attention, observe it, and you will generate more of it. Listening to others go on at length only adds energy to their problem. And, if you’re feeling a bit under the weather, don’t talk about it yourself, think about it endlessly and thereby keeping other, more positive and energising thoughts from your mind.

Instead, focus on your own good health, how you feel when whatever it is that is currently bothering you isn’t.

If it is more than minor, take action as you would do in any endeavour you begin and expect a good outcome for. See a doctor, explain the situation, get what you need from him or her, then direct your thoughts away from the negative – the problem itself – and back to yourself at perfect health.

Really feel what it means to you to be in good health, to draw breath deeply into your lungs, to revel in the sunshine, every part of you feeling glorious. Expect that feeling to be your normal state.

“I have told you all this so that trusting me, you will be unshakable and assured, deeply at peace. In this godless world you will continue to experience difficulties. But take heart! I have conquered the world”. (John 16:35).

You are not the only one with problems…Don’t let the enemy isolate you to believe differently…Everyone has problems, what we call problems are part of the Process of God . We must gain this understanding and we must continually stand on God’s Promise. Problems are normal to life…It doesn’t mean your life is in sin, we ALL have problems…the word teaches us that many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Jesus has already overcome the world.

If somebody makes it too easy for you, they are killing you softly when you don’t have any challenge in your life. There is something about all living creatures that demand a challenge. We must have a change, adaptation and challenge as much as air and food to survive. Conflict and overcoming are the staples of life. It takes HARD experiences to deal with hard heads.

When teachers want students to grow, they give them problems, not answers. When God wants us to grow HE Gives Us Problems not Answers. You can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond to it. Your worth in this world is based on your ability to solve problems. Every testimony comes out of a test.

Five Reasons Why God Allows Problems:

1. God uses problems to DIRECT you. “Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways”. Proverbs 20:12.

2. God uses problems to INSPECT You. ‎”People are just like tea bags, you will find what’s inside of them when you put them in hot water”. James 1:2-3.

3. God uses problems to CORRECT you. “Sometimes you never know what is right until you have experienced the other side and your defence is exposed”.Psalm 119:71.

4. God uses problem to PROTECT you. “Joseph admitted the fact that the rejections and the challenges of his life were to save others and keep him otherwise he would have remained the same”. You never know the worst of life until you see the other side. Gen 15:2o.

5. God uses problems to PERFECT you.”Just think of the end of Job, he got more than what he had at the beginning of his life”. 1 Peter 5:10.

Don’t be pushed by your problems…be led by your dreams…A ‘problem’ is that which can be solved, if it can’t be solved then it isn’t a problem, it is a FACT of life. Know the difference…never make a ‘fact of life’ a ‘problem’, a Fact of life must be accepted.

God is more than able to see you through with total trust in Him.

“Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart”. (Proverbs 37:4).

Love can be found in many places outside a romantic relationship and fun can be found without necessarily having a million pounds. Make sense?

That’s not only why though. Knowing the experiences you’re looking for actually helps you avoid fear and disappointment. For instance, if you KNOW you want adventure and think a red sports car is the way to get adventure, then fine. If a red sports car ISN’T going to get you the adventure you want, that doesn’t mean adventure is out of reach, it just means you go down to the next method or behaviour on your list.

Another reason, and possibly the most important of them all, is that you learn that YOU can fulfil your own desires and intentions without having to rely on help. YOU can fulfil them RIGHT NOW. If you want love, love yourself. If you want joy, be joyful.

If YOU provide yourself with the experiences you seek, this decreases the frantic quality of pursuing the symbols of life. There isn’t a single desire or intention that we can’t fulfil for ourselves right now. And funnily enough, after you give to yourself fully, those symbols just seem to cascade in.

Ask yourself, what experiences are you looking for? Experiences can be like the layers of an onion. There may be pleasure on the surface, but that’s really just a symbol of contentment which is a symbol for peace of mind. Keep asking yourself…eventually, you will find experiences that are complete in and of themselves (experiences that you’re not using merely to achieve other experiences). Once you discover your fundamental desires and intentions, you’ll reveal what you REALLY want and that not only will finding methods and behaviours to creating those experiences become a lot easier, it’ll be much more fun too.

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But desire fulfilled is a tree of life”. (Proverbs 13:12).

In life, there are things you want because you really want them and there are things you want because you THINK they will give you what you really want. The first category is what we’ll call “intentions or desires” and the second category is called “methods or behaviours”.

For instance, you might say you want a red sports car, but ask yourself what you want FROM the red sports car. Adventure? So the real desire or intention is really adventure—the red sports car was just the method to get adventure.

Another example is someone who wants more fun. Ask yourself, what can you do to have more fun? There’s a long list of things you can do to have more fun and in this case, the real desire or intention is fun—with your enjoyable activities being the methods to having fun.

Your intentions or desires are experiences. They’re described by words like freedom, security, power, happiness, self-worth, success, satisfaction, respect, peace of mind, adventure and love.

The behaviours you use to reach the above experiences include money, job/career, clothes, cars, house, marriage, family, sex, physical appearance, educational degrees, food, and travel. And as Alexander Bogomoletz said, “One must not lose desires. They are mighty stimulants to creativeness, to love and to long life.”

When someone wants a physical thing (this includes a wife, husband, child, etc.), they’re actually talking about methods or behaviours to achieving it. When talking about your inner experiences, you’re generally talking about your intentions or desires.

Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it helps to know that getting that new car, house, career or making more money, or even a romantic relationship—all these things are methods or behaviours to achieving something else, something less exterior and more interior such as security, fun, energy, satisfaction, love, knowledge of God, inner peace…

Why should you know this? Simply put, when you know the experience you’re looking for, you can make complete lists of methods and behaviours that might help you achieve what you want.

There are many ways to discover your purpose, here are just a few:

1. Spend some time alone in meditation and reflection. Nobody knows you more than your creator. Spend time in meditation and prayer with God and pay close attention to your inner witness.

2. Observe and documents your greatest areas of challenges. As vague as this might sound, opportunity comes in disguise of problems and it has often be proven that the problems or challenges of your life are rehearsals to your purpose. You become stronger in the areas where you were once weak and you can help others better in those areas.

3. Pay close attentions to what drives your energies. What is it that others do and get tired easily but for you, it feels natural and untiring?

4- Bring to mind what other people easily commend you for and gives you inner fulfilment and joy.

5- What is more important to you than financial gains ? Are there things that you do without immediate financial gains and make you feel your bank account is full of kindness?

6. What can you die for ? What is it that takes over you and when undone leaves you in a state of emotional concern ? What makes you cry and when accomplished gives you the greatest celebration?

7. What stops time for you and put you in the moment eternity? When you find yourself doing something that makes 10 hours a 10 minutes for you,you have found your element.

Get Practical

1. Make a list of your positive qualities and don’t be modest (because we all know that false humility is just a form of egoism in disguise!). Now narrow your positive qualities down into just one or two words. A lot of us end up with lists too short, because we’re critical beings, so ask your friends for some suggestions too then arrange them in sentences that start with “I” or “I am”

2. Before falling asleep, tell yourself that when you wake up, you will know your purpose. It’s not a farfetched as you think, but have a pen and paper by your bed and when you wake up, write whatever words are there and it may be your purpose.

3. Ask yourself and the teachers around you (yes, we go back to our life’s teachers).

As soon as you realise what your purpose is, you shouldn’t tell anyone carelessly. This keeps your purpose powerful, and keeps any envious eyes from you who can deflate your self-belief.

Remember, when you know your purpose, it’s easier to set and achieve your goals.